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Support Group

Hello

You are not alone.

As one of the creators of the flagship Paul Green School of Rock, I I feel a deep responsibility to provide support. This is what I could put together for now. More support is on the way, but in the meantime, I hope this helps.

Please remember…

There is no right way to be a survivor.
There is no timeline for healing.
There is no correct way to feel, respond, or remember.

Everything you are feeling—or not feeling—is valid.
Whatever you are doing—or not doing—is enough.
Wherever you are in your process is enough, for now.

Some people remember everything. Others have flashes or nothing at all and only now feel the ripple of what they lived through. Some are furious. Some are confused. Some are realizing that part of their childhood or innocence was stolen. Some are grieving the music that once felt like home.

All of this is valid.

I’ve put together a list of resources that may help. In the coming days, I’ll also be sharing audio and written messages from people who have navigated the storm of abuse and found recovery on the other side. I hope hearing from those who have walked this path will offer some comfort and perspective.

I’m so sorry for the circumstances that brought you here. But I’m grateful you're seeking a way through.

You are incredibly brave.
The world is better because you’re in it.

With love and support,
Deanna Stull
Former Founding Leadership of the first Paul Green School of Rock

I also made a public post after the article’s publication, including an apology to all who were harmed by the environment I helped create. If you’d like to read it, you can [click here].

A quick note about this page:


If you explore the rest of my website, please know it’s still in progress. I pulled a few things together just to make this page available.


This page isn’t linked in the site menu. You can only access it through the link you were given. Feel free to share it with anyone who may need it.

Emergency Support

For mental crisis support, you can use the following resources

  1. 988 Lifeline: Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

  2. Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741.

  3. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Dial 800-273-TALK (8255).

Important Resources

Mental Health & Trauma Support

 

Why: Survivors may be navigating PTSD, dissociation, depression, and anxiety.

Victim's Rights

  • Civil Lawsuit Information

    • These Pa. bills would give child sexual abuse victims time-barred from suing abusers their day in court​

    • Position Paper SOL.pdfPosition Paper SOL.pdf

“You survived the abuse. Now, you’ll survive the recovery.”

About Me - why did I ceate this page?

I built this space because I know what it’s like to carry the weight of your story by yourself.

I partnered with Paul to help start the original Paul Green School of Rock so I have a responsibility to help how I can. Today, I’m here in a very different role. I’m here to offer support, hold space, and stand with the survivors who are bravely sharing their truths.

There’s a lot I could tell you about who I am, but right now, only a few things matter most.

I’m not a counselor or a therapist. I’m a survivor, just like you.

While I have a professional background in trauma-informed coaching and hospice work, I’m not here in that capacity. I’m here as a peer. As someone who helped build the original School of Rock, I didn’t want to stay silent or leave you to face this alone. I’m here because I understand.

I am a survivor of sexual abuse. I was raped at 19 by someone I considered a "close friend." I didn’t speak about it for over twenty years. I know what silence feels like. The grief. The guilt. The shame. The rage. I know how hard it is to speak up, and how complicated things can get once you do.

For me, the pain of staying silent eventually became greater than the pain of speaking up. I finally told the truth about what happened to me, but not long after I did, my assailant died suddenly of a massive heart attack. There was no confrontation, no justice, no closure in the way I thought there might be. Just the truth, finally spoken out loud — and the beginning of my healing.

I also know what it feels like to be betrayed by someone you trusted. In my late 30s, I found out my father had been living a double life. He had lied to me and everyone around him for as long as I can remember. As a child, I caught glimpses of the truth, little moments that didn’t make sense, but I always talked myself out of believing them. He was my dad. And from the outside, our family looked perfect. It was all a facade. This is the first time I’ve shared that part of my story publicly. I figured if you're out here telling the truth about your life, I should do the same.

What we've been through leaves a mark—it changes us, forever. But healing is possible. A softer, safer path forward does exist, and I’m here to remind you of that.

You don’t have to go through this alone.

 

Whether you’re ready to speak, or still sitting quietly with your story, you are welcome here.

Coming soon: a password-protected space with audio and written messages and reflections from fellow survivors. A space where you can hear from others who have gone before you. If you’d like an invitation and a link when it’s ready, please sign up here.

Your privacy will be honored. Emails will only be used to send access to the survivor space. 

Essential Books for Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse

Foundational & Therapeutic
  1. The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
    → A neuroscience-backed deep dive into how trauma lives in the body and how it can be healed.

  2. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker
    → Especially useful for survivors of long-term or childhood abuse. Includes practical strategies for emotional flashbacks, inner child work, and boundary repair.

  3. Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members by Sherrie Campbell, PhD
    → A direct, empowering guide for navigating relationships with family after abuse or betrayal.

  4. The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
    → A classic resource for women survivors of child sexual abuse. Comprehensive and compassionate, with exercises and survivor stories.
    (Note: includes triggering content; best read when emotionally supported)

Trauma-Specific & Somatic Healing
  1. Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors by Janina Fisher, PhD
    → For those experiencing dissociation, inner conflict, or feeling "broken." Clinical but accessible.

  2. It Didn't Start with You by Mark Wolynn
    → Explores inherited trauma from families—helpful for survivors of abuse with generational roots.

  3. Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
    → Introduces Somatic Experiencing, a powerful body-based healing method that bypasses traditional talk therapy.

Memoir & Survivor Stories
  1. What My Bones Know by Stephanie Foo
    → A raw, stunning memoir of a journalist uncovering her complex PTSD diagnosis and the healing journey that followed.

  2. Know My Name by Chanel Miller
    → The searing, lyrical memoir by the woman formerly known as Emily Doe in the Stanford sexual assault case.

  3. The Deepest Well by Dr. Nadine Burke Harris
    → Combines science, memoir, and medicine to explain how adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) shape lifelong health.

Healing & Empowerment
  1. Mother Hunger by Kelly McDaniel
    → Especially for those whose trauma includes maternal neglect or betrayal. Focuses on attachment, grief, and reclaiming safety.

  2. Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw
    → A vital book for reconnecting with the wounded inner child and reclaiming joy.

  3. The Language of Emotions by Karla McLaren
    → Helps survivors learn to understand and work with overwhelming or shut-down emotions with compassion and clarity.

Trauma PDF's

​"Tonight we cry, we despair, and we fear. Tomorrow we get back to work trying to build the world we want." - Sam Altman

Survivor Blogs

Trigger warning detailed personal abuse stories are shared in blogs.

1. Survivor Stories from Vera's House

2. Our Stories Now: Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma

3. ISurvive: Stories of Recovery from Abuse and Trauma

4. Survivors Voices
  • Format: Peer-led online and in-person groups.

  • Access: Provides regular survivor-only groups, national gatherings, and special events.

  • Details: Focuses on empowering survivors to share their stories and support each other.

  • Website: survivorsvoices.orgSurvivors Voices

 

Recovering from Trauma

About Abuse in Childhood

Trigger warning personal abuse stories are shared in these videos.

Contact

If you want to connect or if you want access to the Survivors Story Space when it is available, you can email. I will do my best to support you. If you haven't spoken up yet and you are ready to do so, I will support you in your sharing to the best of my ability.

**Although I am a coach, if you reach out it will be as a victim to victim peer conversation. At no time will you need to pay for anything. 

My orginal public response:

I’ve been sitting with this devastating knowledge for a long time, and the enormity is still shocking to me. I've known since 2018, which feels like an eternity. Now it’s public, and I need to share thoughts.

On Saturday, Airmail, an online new source, released an article detailing the Paul Green School of Rock creator's horrifying patterns of abuse and control over PGSOR kids.

I spoke at length with the journalist, Ezra, am quoted in the article and connected the journalist to some others whose stories he told, and I need to share my thoughts, here about everything.

In the earliest days of School of Rock, I wasn’t just “there.” I was in it.

I helped build it from the ground up. I found the original building. I negotiated the lease. Part of the “loan” that got it off the ground came from my tax refund. I organized, chaperoned practices, worked the shows.

I did the design, all the press and outreach. I told the story, over and over. I talked to everyone who would listen. I begged musicians to teach.

I helped people believe in it. I made sure people I loved were ready when franchises became available. I believed in it completely.

I believed we were creating something extraordinary.

It was supposed to be place where kids could find their voice, their power, their music, and their people. A place where cliques were left at the door. Where kids who didn’t fit in anywhere else could finally feel like they belonged.

But now the truth is out. And it is devastating. If I had even an inkling of what a monster Paul would become, of the escalation and the harm, I would have done everything in my power to shut the school down and end his access to kids.

It is both fortunate and unfortunate that PGSOR became School of Rock in 2009 and Paul stepped away completely in 2010.

It’s fortunate because School of Rock is free of all of his tyranny and abuse. Unfortunate, in the length of time he had to impact kids so horribly.

There is a sorrow inside of me that has no edges, no end, a sorrow born of knowing that something I helped build created fear, abuse and pain for you.

Above all else, the well-being of every former student weighs on my soul. If I can support anyone involved, I am here.

To every student who was hurt, the apology I’ve carried in my bones since 2018, for being part of the beginning of PGSOR, is unwavering. It’s too vast for words. It lives in my soul, and it always will.

I am sorry.

In 2018, when Paul Green came back to Philly, no longer affiliated with SOR, he opened a new school, under his name.

When news of his new school went public, I started hearing disturbing stories of what had happened in the early years, after I left.

All the stories came through secondhand parties. The stories were of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse. People were saying, tell Deanna, she will do something.

No one was ready to speak directly, but what I heard sent me into a rage and I went on a warpath.

I called PA ChildLine three separate times, but because the students were now adults, they couldn’t help. I contacted the Philly Police Department. They sent me to Special Victims, but because I was a third party and hadn’t personally witnessed anything, and the kids were now adults, they couldn’t help.

Another organization that counseled victims of abuse received my case, but they offered no additional advice. It seemed there was nothing I could do.

I reached out to journalists who had reported powerfully about Me Too. Nothing happened.

I made sure everyone who spoke to me as a go between knew I would support any one ready to tell the story of what happened to them.

My last attempt was to do the only thing I knew to do. I made posts on here saying I was fighting for a group of victims, who were not ready to speak up themselves, and gave them an open invitation to reach out to me anytime to, move forward.

I shared I was always there to stand beside them if they wanted to come forward.

Silence followed. And I needed to honor that silence because until they were ready, it was not my story to tell.

It is important to acknowledge the profound courage it took for the former students to speak up.

I understand just how hard that was. Paul, as awful as he was, had a hold over people, especially the students. His charisma, his manipulation, the way he positioned himself as the center of everything, it created a kind of loyalty that was hard to untangle.

Breaking free of that takes enormous strength. Speaking up, especially publicly, takes even more. These students didn’t just share their stories. They did so when they had the emotional capacity to face the weight of it, to carry the cost of being visible.

And they did it, most likely, to protect others. To make sure no other kid would have to live through what they did. That is bravery. That is deep, soul-level courage. I see it. I honor it. And I will stand beside it, always.

In January 2024, Ezra Marcus reached out. A former student contacted him and started talking. Ezra was a journalist from the NY Times/Rolling Stone who had broken another story of adults manipulating young adults. He had already spoken with several students and was invested in telling the story of the dark side of PGSOR.

He asked if I would share, on the record, and once I started talking, I couldn't stop.

Finally, it was time.

I had no idea the full extent of the horrors that had unfolded, in the years following my departure from PGSOR, even after Ezra and I spoke.

I only learned the whole story, so far, when I read the article, which came out Saturday. There are really no words to describe how I felt after reading the article. It is impossible to capture the combination of rage, hurt, fear, anger, guilt and hatred I felt thinking about how he harmed so many kids.

deeply and in ways I’m still trying to process.

I am experiencing a mess of emotions. But what I am experiencing pales in comparison to what those kids felt then and as adults, how they feel now.

I feel overwhelmed by guilt. I can’t stop asking myself whether, if I had stayed, I could have stopped it. Could I have protected more kids? Could I have made a bigger difference? That question is with me every day.

And then there is the rage, steady, rising, and fierce. I feel a need for justice that won’t quiet down.

Since learning the full truth, I have been overtaken at times with a fire to make sure he never harms anyone again. They only way I can see that happening is by making sure the voice of these kids is shared, everywhere.

And then there is the sadness and profound grief. It’s immense. My heart is broken open for every single kid who was hurt.

For the ones who were silenced.

For the ones who stopped playing music.

For the ones still carrying pain.

For the ones who will never share their story.

I see you. I carry you with me, in my heart, every single day..

To every student who walked through those doors, whether you remember me or not, I see you.

I’m so sorry. So deeply sorry that something I helped create harmed you.

I love you, even if I've never met you, I love you and hope you can find healing and peace again.

You deserved to be protected. You deserved better. You still do.

My door and my heart will always be open to you, until my dying breath. If you need me, I will do my very best to support you.

To any of the parents who are reeling right now, to any of the instructors who are remembering things through a new lens. If you’re feeling this heartbreak and this anger too, I’m here. You are not alone. My door is open. My heart is open.

And I want to make something clear. Back then, it was The Paul Green School of Rock. Paul was the oppressor. He built a system around himself that centered his power and control. He was the malignancy, the idea, the magic, the kids are and were beautiful.

For all involved, I want you to know. I’m here. I always have been. To witness. To support. To listen. To believe you.

If you're a former student, parent, or teacher who wants to talk, share, or just be witnessed—my inbox is open. You can message me privately. No pressure, no expectations. Just presence.

If you’re feeling triggered or overwhelmed, please take care of yourself first. Breathe. Step away if you need to. This is heavy. Your nervous system is not wrong for how it’s reacting.

If you’re not ready to speak, that’s okay. Silence can be sacred. I’ll be here if and when you ever are, if you ever want a safe space to decompress.

If you want resources for processing trauma, talking to someone, or finding support—I’ll do what I can to help connect you. You are not alone.

And I’ll say this clearly, loudly and with my whole soul, Paul Green should never again be allowed near young people ever again. You can make sure this is true my sharing this story as much as you can.

This is a horrible story. There’s no easy ending.

But I am standing here now with my full heart and full presence, ready to be part of whatever healing, truth-telling, or accountability needs to come next.

Submit your email for the invitation to the private space with survivor recovery stories when it is complete,  here.

Your email will not be used for anything other than an invitation to the password protected space.

Be well.

Disclaimer:
I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, psychologist, or medical professional. The information and resources provided herein are for general informational and peer-support purposes only and are not intended as a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, treatment, or legal counsel. If you are in need of professional help, please consult a licensed provider in your area. Participation in any support or resource shared here is strictly voluntary and at your own discretion. I assume no responsibility or liability for the decisions, actions, or outcomes of individuals who engage with the content or resources provided.

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